MEN’S RELATIONSHIP & LIFE COACH

Thing keeps going wrong.

And deep down, you know it's you.

Most men repeat the same patterns in relationships — not because they're broken, but because nobody ever taught them differently. I've been that man. Now I help others find their way out.

MEN'S COACH · COSTA RICA

THOMAS BACKHAUSEN

ENTREPRENEUR · COACH

FROM DANISH ENTREPRENEUR TO MEN’S COACH

MEET THOMAS

I spent years building companies, restaurants, and cocktail bars — studying acting in LA, moving across continents. I was good at the external game. What I was bad at was myself — specifically, the patterns I kept repeating in my closest relationships.

Commercial lawyer turned entrepreneur
Trained actor from Los Angeles
Built restaurants & cocktail bars
Founded Nosara ATV — rental business in Costa Rica
Made mistakes, lost it all, and learned more than any classroom ever taught me
5 years exploring plant medicine & consciousness
Now based in Costa Rica
Coaches in Danish and English

RECOGNITION

Does this sound like you?

Most men I work with aren't broken — they're just stuck in patterns they can't quite see. If you're nodding at more than two of these, we should talk.

01

You keep ending up in the same place in relationships — even with different people.

02

You feel like you're performing a version of yourself rather than actually living.

03

You want to be a better partner, but don't know where to start.

04

You've read the books and know the theory — but nothing has really shifted yet.

05

Something keeps going wrong, and deep down, you know it starts with you.

Real Results. Real Men.

WHAT MEN SAY

★★★★★

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Jesper
Self employed / Denmark
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Blake
Entrepreneur / Costa Rica
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Martin
CEO / US

WORK WITH THOMAS

Choose your path forward

The primary work is 1:1 coaching — deep, personal, and built around you. Everything else supports the same journey.

★ Primary Offering
1:1 Coaching
3-Month
Programme

Deep, personal work built around your specific patterns. No templates. No generic frameworks. Just honest conversation and tools to change — at the root.

  • Bi-weekly 60-minute video sessions
  • Direct access between sessions
  • Relationships, identity & self-awareness
  • Danish or English — your choice
  • Minimum 3-month commitment
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What we work on

Relationship Patterns
Understanding why you keep ending up in the same place — and breaking the cycle for good.
Self-Awareness & Identity
Getting clear on who you actually are — beneath the performance and the roles you play.
Emotional Regulation
Learning to respond rather than react. The skill most men were never taught.

READY TO START?

Stop settling. Start Changing.

BEGIN

A free 30-minute intro call. No pressure, no pitch — just an honest conversation about where you are and whether we're a good fit.

Free · 30 minutes · No commitment